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Why Moms Night Out Is Good for You

You’ve picked out a super cute outfit, you have your full makeup on for once all week, you’ve actually washed and blow dried your hair – and you are going out tonight, with your girlfriends. And, here’s the kicker – NO KIDS…Moms Night Out!

Did I say NO KIDS?


I confess, I need more Moms Nights Out (MNO). However, every few months, I do make the effort to be “husband-less and kid-less” to go out with girlfriends. I wondered, though, could not going out, in fact be detrimental to my mental health?

According to Kate Baxter, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in Orange County, women may not be able to recognize why they feel like they “need” a girls night, but not having time for yourself to attend to just your needs can lead to feelings of depression, emptiness, resentment and misplaced anger.

Baxter points to the exhausting role married women have and how their role of wife and mother can override their own needs. “Women can easily get caught up in the caregiver role of wife and mother and get lost in tending to others’ needs to the point where they put their (needs) last on the priority list,” she explains.

Besides the potentially harmful effects of not taking time for ourselves, the main reason to have more MNOs is that women need to “individuate as their own self, to nurture their interests, whether it’s to gab with their friends, attend a book club, join a ladies sporting team, etc., whatever it is, it’s theirs, and all about them,” affirms Baxter

Another reason to have regular MNOs is it helps women learn to let go of all of the tasks and responsibilities waiting at home. “A lot of women I see in my practice find a million reasons to not care for themselves because they struggle with guilt, letting go of control, or giving themselves permission to have some fun and/or try something new,” she adds.

A final reason, according to Baxter, that us girls need time without family obligations is that when we neglect ourselves, our reserve tank begins to empty, which causes exhaustion and emptiness.

“When you begin doing just a bit of something for yourself, it refreshes you, improves your mood, and allows your family to see that change. This more ‘balanced you’ shows your children that it is ok to care for one’s own needs and they are around a happier mom. Your husband will notice that as well,” concludes Baxter.

So what do you say? Moms Night Out anyone?

Kristal Zacharias is the mother of two beautiful, vivacious girls, and wife of a hunky husband who works in the action sports industry. For the past 15 years, Kristal has worked for several Fortune 500 companies as a professional communicator. Follow her journey at Clearly Kristal or on Facebook and Twitter.


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