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How To Successfully Date After Moving To A New City

Moving to a new city where you don’t know anybody is a huge leap of faith. You are one of the 50% of people expected to live in more urban areas by 2050. Whether you want to experience busy city life or have an amazing job opportunity you cannot pass up, moving alone to a big city happens more frequently than you might think. This experience presents you with the opportunity to reinvent yourself and meet new people to befriend and date. It might not be easy initially, as you need time to adjust and take in your surroundings before thinking about finding the perfect person. So, while you explore, here are some tips to help your love life when in a new city.

 

  • Settle in and network

 

The time it takes to adjust to a new place depends on the individual. Some people might get in the groove of things right away, while others need time to process the change and feel comfortable. Part of settling in involves exploring your new city and making your new home a comfortable and safe place. After all, your home needs to be suitable enough to accommodate the date when the time comes. 

To meet new people, you would need to know various spots such as restaurants, cafes, and social and recreational locations like the gym and park. Therefore, it is vital to take the time to interact with your new surroundings. Be sure to attend social gatherings and events close to where you live. You might meet a few of your neighbors or make other friends from different parts of the city. If you have work or school, it’s always good to introduce yourself to your colleagues or classmates. You might not immediately find someone to date, but these interactions would help you build connections that would help you meet someone. 

 

  • Don’t be afraid to go out alone

 

When you’re single, new to a city, and don’t have friends to hang out with, it might feel uncomfortable or weird going out alone. And even when you do, you might be tempted to spend the entire night texting your old friends or, worse, pretending to be texting. But going out by yourself and enjoying it is a fun and effective way to constantly push yourself out of your comfort zone. Contrary to what you might think, it’s much easier to meet people that way. Plus, you are encouraged to start or carry-on conversations with new people when you go out by yourself. If you don’t know where to start, you can also start by making friends with the workers at the various places you frequent. The bartender at the local bar could recommend a few other places you can check out. 

However, it’s understandable if you are concerned about your safety, especially in a new neighborhood. Or maybe you’re just really, really shy. You can start building your network right from your phone. With most chat services offering free trial minutes, you can start getting to know people in a more secure and comfortable setting.

 

  • Don’t forget to make friends

 

Just because you want to start dating doesn’t mean you should have a one-track mind. The danger with only thinking the result of any potential connection should be a romantic commitment is that you can easily lose out on the opportunity to make and keep some amazing friends. It also stops you from forcing yourself to feel sparks with someone you’ve met. If you’re not feeling any romantic attraction or connection, you have to be honest as soon as possible. You might be surprised to find out that they also feel the same! So, even if you do want to start dating, it’s good to use your interactions as an opportunity to make friends. Who knows? You could meet your potential partner through your friends and keep a healthy and long-lasting friendship. 

 

  • Find people who share your interests

 

Relocating to a new city involves a lot of hard work, and you might be so busy that you wouldn’t have time for fun. But you must make time for the things that you love. If you have a hobby, it’s the perfect time to get back into it. You can join like-minded individuals either through a club or through friends. If you like to jog, you can join a running club or a fitness group. 

On the other hand, if you don’t have a hobby, it’s time to get yourself one. There are several activities or classes that you can take up, including painting, cooking, or reading. When you do something you are passionate about, you get more excited and willing to open up to others. Most importantly, you are surrounded by like-minded people. This is a huge addition to your dating life. This is because you would most likely meet people who share similar interests giving you a common thing you can bond over and enjoy together if you become an item. 

 

  • Be your amazing self 

 

When you move to a new city, it can be the perfect opportunity to reinvent yourself. However, ensure you do not take it too far. Reinventing yourself involves working on your confidence, self-esteem, and positivity. You don’t need to pretend to be someone else to get others to like you or want to date you. You also don’t need to make up stories about why you moved. Instead, aim to be yourself to help you create more meaningful and honest relationships with others. 

When you start dating, be clear with your intentions and what you are looking for. Do not try to conform to what someone else believes simply because you have a lot in common. Have as much fun as possible throughout the entire process without the added pressure. Having fun and looking comfortable while doing so is an incredibly attractive feature. 

Moving to a new city is physically, emotionally, and financially taxing. And if it is hours away from home and the people you know and love, you might feel lonelier. However, you’ll become more confident when meeting potential partners with some effort and these tips. Within a few months, it will start to feel like home.

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