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To A More Successful And Confident You

Now that most of us have experienced all the work/life/school from home challenges, we better understand the balancing act required to succeed. I believe that we need to define being successful as a process and not a destination. 

It’s part of a journey and built upon a pattern of behaviors that lead to the desired outcome and not just the outcome itself that is my definition of success. 

Our confidence grows the more we accomplish. 

It’s the experience of confronting the unknown and overcoming those obstacles that help teach us the most. It’s like dealing with the suddenness of the shutdowns forcing us to be a mother, wife, boss, and teacher all on the same day and all within the same 5 minutes. 

Finding the balance between all those competing things is crucial to how we feel about our day and all our accomplishments. 

What do we do, however, if we’re unsure about what and how to do something? We act like it, and that lack of confidence is apparent to anyone watching. This is especially true for our kids to witness. 

As more and more people help their kids learn remotely and while at home, having an air of confidence about ourselves is crucial to explaining the material. If you’re unsure about what you’re helping your kids understand, they will have a more challenging time grasping the concepts. 

That’s why you should “fake it til you make it.” 

Fake It Until You Make It

The idea behind “fake it til you make it” is that we act confidently to learn confidence. 

The theory behind this is that the more you work with confidence, the more confident you become. 

Psychology Today explains the process as a way to rewire your brain into adopting the desired behavior. And when we are dealing with others, if we act the way we want to be perceived, through “status-enhancement,” we become the image we project to others. 

Dressing Up Isn’t Just For Playtime

As a good example, there’s an old saying that goes something like “dress for the job you want, not the one you have.”  People make snap decisions about us all the time, and usually, within the first few seconds, they see us. 

By dressing for the job you want, you’ll be perceived by others as more deserving of that position rather than the one you have already. You’re rewiring their brains on how they see you. 

Think about how you look at your doctor as they are dressed and wear a lab coat over their scrubs. Now imagine that same doctor coming to speak with you in sandals and a cut-off shirt. 

See how ridiculous that would look? 

How much confidence would you have in a doctor dressed in a T-shirt and shorts? I know I wouldn’t have much faith in them regardless of their reputation.

And with that said, you can get by in today’s work-from-home world by dressing up – partway. 

Most video chats are headshots, and so much of what is below the waist is unseen. You could wear an amazing shirt or blouse, and get by with just leggings or pajama bottoms if you chose. 

Give Yourself A Confidence Makeover

Remember, part of the way you get perceived differently is also by how you act differently. So if you dress up only partway or half commit to change, you won’t fully embrace that change, and your energy may reflect that truth. 

If you’re trying to position yourself for a better role at your work, displaying a better attitude and dressing the part goes a long way toward how your peers, bosses, and clients will perceive you. 

Of course, your job performance matters as well, but you can project yourself in a more positive light while you bust your tail at work. 

If you’re struggling with helping your child understand new math, science, or other types of school work your child is struggling with, look over the material and present that information confidently is extremely important to how your kids receive the message. 

They already see you as an authority. You are their parent; after all, you need to portray that as you help them. Being unsure of what you tell them only makes them more unsure. 

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